Amy Dickinson
If you miss one moment of enjoying your own life and relationships because you're trying to punish someone else, the bad guy wins.Collection: Women
If nothing changes, you will have to put your disappointment in perspective.Collection: Disappointment
When you're a single parent, you're often lonely, yet seldom alone. There is no backup ... It is mothering without a net.Collection: Lonely
[from a reader] Whenever I feel myself resenting someone, I reach out. I have made good friends that way.Collection: Women
When the choice is between a demanding relationship and a vintage pickup truck, I'll choose the truck every time.Collection: Women
You must give and receive love only when doing so doesn't hurt others. That's the ethical path, and you should gain strength from walking it.Collection: Hurt
You should not propose marriage until you have resolved your feelings about your ex.Collection: Women
Single parenthood is hard, but it's simple too. You just do everything yourself.Collection: Simple
The fullness of life is incubated in its messy places.Collection: Women
A threat is a promise followed by a consequence.Collection: Women
Ask 10 people about their family relationships and at least five of them will report an estrangement.Collection: Women
Absence really can make the heart grow fonder, even when the [man's] feet wander.Collection: Women
Almost any group of three is going to form a triangle, with two points closer to one another.Collection: Women
Being inclusive sometimes means being kind toward people whose views are repugnant. But you should only do so if it is physically and emotionally safe for you.Collection: Women
If you turn the heat down on the relationship, she will soften, the tension will lessen, and she will eventually inch closer to you. Don't go in for the hug until you achieve a handshake.Collection: Women
Couples who have been together for a long time say the key to staying together is to work as a team toward the greater good, tolerating some tough (even tragic) times to grow together and work toward a mature kind of union.Collection: Couple
Not every relationship can be altered to fit.Collection: Women
Needy and boring parents tend to have needy and bored children.Collection: Children
One of the benefits of being divorced is that you no longer need to listen to your ex's assessment of the appropriateness of your actions.Collection: Women
One person gets to decide if something is a problem in a relationship.Collection: Women
Mature people must find their own ways to cope with their own temptations.Collection: Women
He sounds like someone who might best be loved from a distance.Collection: Women
Have you ever noticed how bored people are also boring?Collection: Women
Groveling for connection from someone who compares you to Hitler is not good for a person's self-esteem.Collection: Women
In life, you don't get instant satisfaction. In life, you get to slog. You work. You grow. You take the long view. You fill the void with self-actualization.Collection: Women
One of the privileges of adulthood is that your parents don't get to tell you what to do.Collection: Women