Bruce Feiler

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Children who plan their own goals, set weekly schedules, evaluate their own work build up their frontal cortex and take more control over their lives.
- Bruce Feiler
Collection: Children
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The biggest idea that I have learned - I basically went in to write a book about Adam and Eve, ended up writing a book about love. And what did I learn? Love is a story you tell with another person.
- Bruce Feiler
Collection: Book
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Love is a story we tell with another person. It's cocreation through conarration. When you hit bumps in the road and challenges, you write a new chapter in your story together. Love is the constant act of revising and retelling your own story in real time. You don't do it by yourself. You do it with someone else. The only way you do that is to talk to each other and create a shared narrative.
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Collection: Real
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One day, my daughter Tybee came to me, and she said, ‘I have so much love for you in my body, Daddy, I can’t stop giving you hugs and kisses. And when I have no more love left, I just drink milk, because that’s where love comes from.’
- Bruce Feiler
Collection: Daughter
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You don't need a grand plan, you don't need to go back to the ancestors and rewrite the rules. You just need to take small steps and accumulate small wins.
- Bruce Feiler
Collection: Winning
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The higher the joy is not the light, it's the reflection. The greater pleasure is not climbing up; it's handing down
- Bruce Feiler
Collection: Reflection
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When you hit the unimaginable, the only answer is imaginativeness. You have to heal with the person that you're suffering with. You have to write a new chapter in your story. A relationship can be a sacred thing, but it's going to be difficult. There are going to be challenges. You are going to have pain. But working it through and being resilient is as sacred and meaningful as having a "Hollywood" romance.
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Collection: Meaningful
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There is profundity to explore, but also laundry to do.
- Bruce Feiler
Collection: Laundry
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One of the things I've learned is to be much more open about my frailties and about our failures, because when you show your kids how you can resolve conflict in your life in real time, you're giving them confidence that when they have conflicts, they can push through them.
- Bruce Feiler
Collection: Real
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Social media is fine, but we need to put the phones down and look somebody in the eye. Talk to your neighbor. Talk to your community. Especially talk to the one you love. It's all about connection. It's hard, but it's ultimately what gives us meaning in the world.
- Bruce Feiler
Collection: Eye
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We no longer just take religious identity from our parents, so what's going on? Why are people going to this series, why are people reading so many books about religion? It's because they want answers. The answers are no longer just passed down from generation to generation. It's harder for people. In effect, you have to roll up your sleeve and ask the questions. But if you do it, if you forge your own identity, it can be much more personal and much more meaningful to you.
- Bruce Feiler
Collection: Meaningful
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We're in a hyper-connected world, and there's a crisis of connection. The first thing that God says about woman and man in the Bible is that it's not right for humans to be alone. Social media interaction cannot take the place of face-to-face interaction. If anything, it prevents us from doing that. We're staring into our screens for so long that we're forgetting to look at the people directly in front of us.
- Bruce Feiler
Collection: Men
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You may be frustrated with religion, but don't take that out on God.
- Bruce Feiler
Collection: Frustrated
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Moses became Americas true founding father because he evangelized action; he justified risk. He gave ordinary people the courage to live with uncertainty.
- Bruce Feiler
Collection: Father
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Learning to heal ruptures is a key to having a successful relationship. Adam and Eve model that for all of us. In Hollywood love is a choice, and you live happily ever after. In real life love is a series of choices. You make the choice to be with a person over and over again.
- Bruce Feiler
Collection: Real
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Our instinct as parents is to order our kids around — it's easier, and frankly, we're usually right. [But] reverse the waterfall as much as possible. Enlist the children in their own upbringing.
- Bruce Feiler
Collection: Children
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Adam and Eve - and especially Eve - are victims of the greatest character assassination the world has ever known. Eve is not secondary. Eve, if anything, is the great initiator in the story. She's the first independent woman. For me, rediscovering that Eve was the greatest bad**s women of all time was a revelation.
- Bruce Feiler
Collection: Character
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I think that most of the action in religion is around the home, is in families, and is in individual lives, and they can go on their own searches, watch their own TV shows, read their own books, form their own groups and discuss it, but that's where the action is - on the home front.
- Bruce Feiler
Collection: Book
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When it comes to gender, marriage, family, work, and religion - we once thought of them as being fixed, but they're incredibly fluid. The same is true for love. Love was not something that was originally built between two equal partners in a relationship. It's something that's been hard-earned over time.
- Bruce Feiler
Collection: Gender
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But humans disappoint. Adam, in tasting the fruit, indicates that he prefers Eve to God, so God banishes them.
- Bruce Feiler
Collection: Fruit
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I had always believed that I left a bit of me wherever I went. I also believed that I took a bit of every place with me.
- Bruce Feiler
Collection: Always Believe
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May your first word be adventure and last word love.
- Bruce Feiler
Collection: Adventure
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It's like they say in the Internet world — if you're doing the same thing today you were doing six months ago, you're doing the wrong thing. Parents can learn a lot from that.
- Bruce Feiler
Collection: Parent
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The bottom line: if you want a happier family, create, refine and retell the story of your family’s positive moments and your ability to bounce back from the difficult ones. That act alone may increase the odds that your family will thrive for many generations to come.
- Bruce Feiler
Collection: Stories
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My name is Bruce Feiler, and I’m an explainaholic. I first heard this word used to describe Isaac Asimov, and I knew instantly that I suffered from the same condition. It’s the incurable desire to tell, shape, share, occasionally exaggerate, often elongate, and inevitably bungle a good story.
- Bruce Feiler
Collection: Stories
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There’s a reason the Exodus story has inspired so many Americans. It’s a narrative of hope.
- Bruce Feiler
Collection: Stories